11.04.09
12 Angry Gay People..
Does anyone remember the movie, “12 Angry Men”? I love Law dramas – I thought “Runaway Jury” was fabulous with one of my fave actors – Gene Hackman and if you remember “Class Action” it was another great movie…
Anyway, many of you may not agree with me – I know I am pretty opinionated and sometimes just off the hook about things, but, we – the gay community – are going about this whole gay marriage thing all wrong.
We are spending $$ MILLIONS on fighting in local, state and federal arenas to get the governments to recognize us as legitimate relationships. So why do we keep losing? One simple fact – in the eyes of the “right” or the “moral majority” or what ever you call them, we are not “equal” – we are an abomination as they like to remind us. They tell us we can be cured of our perversions and try to create “ex gays”. In fact a dear from of mine was seeing someone recently and well, after they broke up, the other person (not my friend) replied with a silly email that contained:
I have decided to give up the Gay lifestyle and give my life back to God..
Oh give me a break here. I mean this is so off the charts that we all know and laugh about it. I mean she has decided to “give up” her lifestyle? To me this makes me wonder, when did she “DECIDE” to be gay? *sigh*
So what is my point?
We all know it is not a choice. There is a reason 10% of the all the species of the world are gay. It exists in nature – in some way – we were made this way. So my point is simple – let’s stop spending the millions on FIGHTING the right and instead focus on finding the “gay gene” (for lack of a better word).
There is something out there in nature that makes us this way – they have studied the brains and characteristics of all sorts of animals and humans and find distinct differences in how gay and straight members of a species are indeed different. If we spent the millions of $$’s on figuring it out, then we could simply say, “Sorry folks, we were born this way” and be done with it.
Now imagine, ANY of these silly laws they put in to deny us marriage and more would be over turned by the justice system for one simple reason – they could not defend it. I mean if they still tried to deny interracial marriage it would NEVER stand up in court. If they tried to put something on a ballet some where denying us the right to marry, the Constitution would HAVE to be upheld to give us the rights – how could they go and say “well, just because a black person can marry a white person and well they are born that way, oh yeah wait, so are you, well we don’t care, we don’t like you…” They could not.
Let’s get out there are PROVE that we are who we are because we are BORN and not “made” by some environmental issues. We KNOW it but we must prove it. We must show the bigots that they indeed are bigots and nothing more. They are not going to “cure” us, or deny us rights that every other group or minority that is “born” is granted…
In all aspects of these challenges – they use the same arguments – that it is a “lifestyle”. They tell us we made a choice to be who we are. I don’t know about you but I am SICK AND TIRED of being told I made a choice.
I did not choose this!!!!
I knew it from when I could form words. I knew something was different. I was raised in a straight household by straight “traditional” parents – and yet I know I was born into who I was. Even my mother, to this day, a devout Catholic all her life, still tells me “of course I know you were born this way, I just wonder what it was inside me that might have contributed to it…”
I had a friend say to me once, and she was black, “why isn’t there something that identifies you, I mean it is obvious I am black…” I wish there was. I wish I was “rainbow” colored or had a pinkie longer on one hand or SOMETHING! It has to be there.
Isn’t it time we stood up for the fight we can win – the fact that we are simply who we are. I for one would donate a lot of money to scientific studies to prove it. And the fact is, I know there is proof – somewhere – because each and every one of us has something in us that makes us this way – it was not a choice – we know it – now let’s show them THEIR true colors – the bigotry that is inherent in those who continue to tell us “you can be cured” – you can be an “ex gay”…
And to those who think they “won” in Maine – the day will come when YOUR true colors will show through… And I have to tell you – they really are pretty ugly, no matter how you look at it.
Peace
Kat